Healing in the Mundane

I’ve always been a routine person. Routines help us hit our goals, create consistency, and help us manage our schedule. It allows us to determine our priorities or even change our priorities depending on what new items come up in our lives.

Being a coparent showed me just how important routines are. Children thrive in routine and consistency. If you are consistent with your children, they will feel more peace and less emotional turmoil. Children love when they know what to expect. The unknown is scary.

The nighttime routine I’ve had with my daughter since she was a newborn has never wavered. I’ve always laid with her for nighttime where I rocked her or sat with her and read her books before bed. This allowed us to connect to each other even after a busy day.

This routine has helped us through everything and anything. Even if we had a very hard day, whether emotionally draining or busy with events, work, or limited time together, this routine gave us the opportunity to connect. For me this routine is the most important because our day could be chaotic but if we take a moment before we lay our heads down it encourages us to reset and rest. (R&R) This helps make the next day is better. Rather than only focusing on the negatives, the other thing I like to do with this routine is to take the opportunity to reflect and praise the GOOD days we had. This allows us to make sure we appreciate the good and strive to keep those good days coming.